Open Letter to an Ex

If you are reading this piece in hopes to relate to a sad break up story, you've come to the wrong place.

This is a TRIBUTE to the man who broke my heart. Yes, it is true what they say: "The first cut is the deepest" but I am here to show a silver lining.

Why? Because that bump in the road lead me to where I am today. And I am forever indebted to him for that.

So, here we go…...

Thank you for letting me go. Because of you, I fell into the arms of the most kind and gentle soul.

Thank you for telling me you loved me, but never actually showing it. Because of you, I have learned that actions speak louder than words. I appreciate True Love: to be loved and loving hard in return.

Thank you for never meeting me halfway. You taught me that a relationship only works in 50/50 and to no longer settle for anything less.

Thank you for the bad sex. I now know that I was never comfortable around you because you never fully accepted me as a person. So how was I supposed to feel accepted about my body? Because of you, I will never give myself away to anyone who doesn't make me feel empowered.

Thank you for always being under the influence. I have realized the effects of alcohol and drugs are a lot deeper when you don’t care to be sober around the people you “love”. Because of you, I no longer accept people like you into my life.

Thank you for never treating my friends with respect, except the one you were talking to behind my back. I have now learned to keep a tight-knit of girls and to NEVER let anyone talk to them the way you used to.

Thank you for never giving a shit to meet my family. Because of you, I didn't have to expose them to a bad chapter in my life, especially the kids. They have only ever known and will only ever know that their Aunt has high standards.

Thank you for all of the lies. I now know that trust and honesty are the number one rules in a healthy relationship.

Thank you for the sleepless nights filled with sad songs and tears. Because of you, I now hear those same songs and instead, count my blessings of how far I've come since you.

Thank you for never believing in my dreams and then letting me go. Because of you, I had the courage to get UNSTUCK, move away to an amazing city, and make those dreams a reality.

And last but not least, Thank GOD for UNanswered prayers.

- Anonymous